Disabilities
Posted by carlaMay 8
from http://saltygrace426.blogspot.com, the website of Brette, who is learning, serving, and growing with Team Expansion workers in Mongolia
Magda is a woman from Holland who has been here in Mongolia for fourteen years. She just recently moved out here to Altia and she is bringing Jesus into the lives of 11 disabled children and their families. After a few short months she has a small Bible study going with a few of the parents.
Today, I went to three homes with her.
The first boy was sixteen. If I hadn’t known I would have thought he was eight or nine. So small. But you could just see that he has a big heart. He cannot speak so he was trying to show Magda that he remembered what he learned the week before. How to undress himself! That is a very good skill to have young man.
He also found stools for us to sit on. He isn’t as graceful as the rest of us but you know what, he got them!
Magda pulled out a book and tried to show him pictures and say the names of them and get him to pull his own belongings out. He found the first item, a pink hat, and promptly put it on. The second was a pair of socks but he just couldn’t concentrate. So we moved on to washing dishes. His father brought over the wash bowl with a rag and two dishes and tried to force his son to wash them right away. Poor boy. He didn’t like that so much and started making some noises of disapproval. Magda mimicked him and for some reason he laughed instead! So she slowly taught him how to wash the dishes, encouraging him with every step. That is after about 10 minutes of him dipping his finger in, shrieking, and backing away. He somehow managed to learn how to wash and dry dishes. Mostly. He only washes the insides of the dishes and only dries the outsides. But you know what, that’s progress baby! Magda then pulled out the book again to no avail. He had just gotten a high five for washing dishes and was just too excited! So she pulled out a squishy ball instead. Oh how his eyes lit up. He is a good throw. Which I thought was kind of amazing. He will just throw it straight to you. Catching however, well, we tried. We tried several different methods but as soon as I cupped my hands around his to help him catch the ball he was a puddle of giggles. When we went to leave he clasped Magda’s hand the best he could and she shook his hand. He is still working on that. She told him to shake my hand and when I reached my hand out he just laced his fingers through mine and said, “heeeeeee” and giggled. So precious. It’s so hard to think of him as being sixteen because he looks like he is nine and acts more like a, well, I don’t know. Because honestly you can’t say they act younger because even younger children and speak, dress themselves, learn to wash dishes, etc. So I don’t know really.
The next child was a thirteen year old with cerebral palsy. I thought she was five. She thought the exercises were very painful as her muscles and tendons are horribly underdeveloped (you can actually see this) and her joints are so tight. Magda fears breaking the little girl’s joints. She cried during the exercises because they were so painful but once Magda got her in a chair and started blowing bubbles she was all smiles. She just loved them. Magda would sometimes catch a bubble on the wand and ask the little girl to catch it. So she would very slowly raise her arm up until she popped the bubble with the tip of her fingers. She was so happy when she did it! She also tried to color although she cannot really press down hard enough. But she happily tried to switch the pencil back and forth between her hands without anyone trying to get her to do it. She was also very happy to receive a kiss on the cheek and a sticker from Magda. Her eyes crinkled and she just smiled so big.
The last child was just as difficult to watch. He like the little girl was born with a disability (the older boy was dropped when he was a small child and the doctor’s did a spinal tap). Although Magda didn’t try to diagnose that. He’s almost four but I really thought he was only 11 months at the most. He was on his back on the bed not making any noise when we came in. At first, because he was so bundled I couldn’t really see what was wrong. But when Magda picked him up his head just couldn’t stay up. Then I saw how thin his arms were and his bloated belly. As she lay him on the floor for exercises he kept looking towards his sister and he would start to slide off his little pillow because he can’t hold his head still. He didn’t like his exercises anymore than the little girl. It is very tiring for him because his muscles are not developed. For some reason, when he was born, he needed a feeding tube. When they pulled the tube out they damaged something in his throat. His breathing sounds awful and very painful but they say that it is fine that maybe it is something with his voice. If you think of pictures of malnurished kids in Africa – that’s this kid. So tiny, except for his head, and a very bloated belly. They told us he eats milk and meat and flour. They said he doesn’t like anything else. I worry for that boy and I know that Magda really does. He is so floppy. Somehow he is floppy and stiff at the same time. I don’t understand it. So floppy. But today he made a significant improvement that almost put his father in tears. His father and two older sisters were there and they all wanted to help. The father talked to the boy and held a ball up to him. Sometimes he can grasp a little, squishy ball and today was one of those days. He couldn’t hold it but for a few short seconds. But he wrapped his stiff fingers around it and held it for as long as he could.
So today, essentially what I saw was, Jesus. Jesus walking into people’s homes and showing them how to care for their little children. How to love their children unconditionally. He was making them well little by little. Now I know these kids will never be “normal,” able to do all that we can. They will never win a national championship or make a great speech to the nation. But for some reason, God knit these children in their mother’s wombs. And He loves them so much that He sends Jesus right into their homes. It may not be the way we would have God work but then, if he did what we wanted we would be him and he would be us.
All I know, is that those little children see Jesus and their faces light up with the biggest, purest smiles I have ever seen.
